This is just a quick excerpt from a response I offered a mama on Boulder Rock N Moms who was struggling with her anger toward her child’s resistance to putting on clothes. Most often these types of reactions are deeper than the presenting issue.  I know we can all relate to emotional reactions to our children’s behaviors so I thought I might post this as it can be helpful to us all.  In the future I will post a 6 part segment on the phases of transition and emotional responses to things in our environment, but for now read on for a few quick tips…

Our responses to things (especially our children) are a mirror into our own souls. It may be very helpful for us to pause – whether before, during, or after a blowup or breakdown – and ask ourselves what it’s really all about for us. It may be very clear and right on the surface or it may be buried deep inside. It is possible to uncover ‘buttons’ and to energetically turn them off or shift them back into our control. I use a powerful process called Evolutionary Kinesiology combined with mind-body coaching to identify the issues and neutralize them at their core. If you would like to schedule a coaching session, please feel free to call me at (303) 642-3105.

If I can offer 4 questions for you to ask yourself on various occasions they would be the following:

1. Where am I in my body – when you bring your attention to your body, where does your attention go? – chest, belly, neck, throat, arms, legs, back, etc.

2. What is there physically – describe it to yourself as best as you can (how big, how deep, how dense, hot, cold, energetic, solid, poky, smooth, etc)

3. What is the emotion that is related to the physical sensation? (anger, sadness, stress, fear, anxiety, longing, loss, hate, etc)

4. What is the message – sit quietly with this sensation and ask IT what it’s there for, what message does it have for you, what does it want to tell you?? All physical sensations and emotions are there as wisdom for you if you are willing to listen. Let IT answer – not your brain.

Once you have the message, you can take appropriate action.

You can do this process for positive sensations as well, not just negative or troubling experiences.

Stay tuned for more on this subject as I have time to post on my blog between kids camps, work, family time, travels and all kinds of other fun summer time activities.

Enjoy your summer!